Stop being an emotional fool

Says mind and body expert Dr Shreepad Khedekar, “People who are emotional find it difficult to accept reality and thereby, hurt themselves. This is the reason why emotional people are often labelled as ’emotional fools'”.

Who is an emotional fool?
People who are extremely sensitive and easily let people tread over them are referred to as emotional fools. But according to psychiatrists, being sensitive is a normal trait which is found in 15-20% of the population in our country.

Why is it bad?
Says Dr Khedekar, “Too much of anything is bad. Especially when you let people or a certain person control your feelings and modify them the way they want to, will only hurt you and will be a cause of constant worry. The curse of this highly developed sensitivity is that you intensely feel almost everything — the good, the anxious and the angry but can’t do anything about it because you either love the person too much or you let situations and circumstances affect you.”

Ways to strengthen yourself
Being too emotional can make you feel vulnerable, threatened and defensive. It robs you of a happy life by hurting you with comments and actions that are otherwise considered ‘normal.’

You’re your own master: One needs to recognise that though you may have people around who are concerned and would like to help you, you have to help yourself.

Explore your sensitivity: Figuring out what you are emotional or sensitive about, can help you take control better.

Look for the trigger: Look for patterns or habits you have developed that prompt you to behave in this way.

Take time off: Sometimes, it is best to take time off and be on your own. This will help you figure out the issue by yourself.

Keep in mind
– Say ‘no’ when you have to. Don’t sacrifice your own needs to please others.
– Let go of people who aren’t who you thought they were.
– Don’t take medicines in a bid to ‘heal’ yourself. Practise meditation or yoga instead.